Reply To: Name Change Pressure
I went through a similar experience and came to the opposite conclusion as some of the others.
My ex moved straight in with the woman he had an affair with and very quickly asked me when I would be changing my name because it was bothering his new partner! I had actually already decided that I needed to change it back to my maiden name as his behaviour (and that of his mother) had been so vile that I no longer wanted to be associated with him or his family. I needed to do it for my own sanity.
Also we both work for the same (large) company that I was constantly being asked ‘oh so you’re…… wife’ and having to explain.
Unfortunately my daughter doesn’t have the luxury of changing hers and I just said that she could choose when she was older if she wanted to change hers (or double barrel it). She comments occasionally on us having different names but seems to have accepted it. In the last year, i have had no issues at all with school, doctors etc etc