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Hi Sarah,

I’m sorry things are so tough for you at the moment.
I was really shocked when my ex moved out 8 months ago saying he didn’t know what he wanted. We’d had some challenging times but ironically I’d been telling family how much better things were. It absolutely threw me. After 2 months I called time on our relationship and as painful as it was for me, I realised he wasn’t able to do it himself.
I have two kids – nearly 3 & 6. I am the main cater, probably 95% of the time. The see their dad for a day a couple of times a month.
We moved to an area where we had no friends / family about 5 years ago. It’s bloody tough. I’m really lucky my eldest started primary school and I’ve got a few really good mates who I can lean on to an extent. But it’s phenomenally difficult being the main parent with no support, I was so tired tonight I got cross with this kids at bedtime and then fell asleep putting them to bed. There’s no-one else to help.
I’m not saying ‘poor me’ but I wanted to reply to your post and say, yes it’s tough. You’ll be ok. I am going through a new phase of feeling stronger, no idea how long it will last, but i am embracing it.
You need to be there for you and your child and navigate through the next stage in your life. Be strong, you can get through this. Just take everyday as it comes and celebrate the fact you are all fed, watered, clothed and where you need to be everyday – it’s been really good to break it down to such a basic level and be pleased to do these basic things (for me :))

take care of yourself.