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Hoggletp
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Hi all, when I separated from my ex at the start of the year, I rightly or wrongly went straight into renting a two bed house privately. I had nothing in terms of furniture (more important to leave it in the family home for my child to enjoy), and no upfront fees, I asked for help from friends and charity, and the offers for furniture were overwhelming. I have been in at least 6 months now, and although it kills me financially every month, even with working overtime. I am coping in the solice that I have my own space, and my daughter can come stay whenever she wants. In honesty, it has probably helped me alot in getting over my ex and the terms under which we split. I would suggest asking for help and bite the bullet with the costs, it will pay off mentally if nothing else in the long run. You are right in one thing, there is no help for the non custodian whatsoever from the government. And we can only help ourselves. Hope this helps to give you a view from the other side of the decision, going it alone. I won’t lie mentally it’s hard (not having a penny to spare each month), but the physical benefits square it off. And hopefully long term, I will finally balance things out.