Posted Thu 14 Feb 2013 21:24
welcome to the forum!
You enable other people to pm you by clicking on 'my forum profile' once youve logged in, on the left hand side you will see a tick box that says something like 'allow other users to personal message me', however you dont need to enable it to message folk as long as they have already enabled it, just go to their profile page and if it says ' send user a pensonal message' then theyve already done it, the option on your profile page is only to allow an unsolicited meassage from somebody else, not personal messaging in its entirety.
You should also check out the thread 'evening alone :-(' where they are talking about a more fluent way of chatting.
All the best